How to: Tips and Tricks on how to make your flight smooth and stress-free

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We arrived back in Canada yesterday and we had the smoothest flight ever with WestJet. The stewardesses were very funny, friendly and helpful. More than any other airline I reckon. Besides the slight change in temperature from 30 Celsius (87 Fahrenheit) to – 5 Celsius (23 Fahrenheit!) and snow everywhere in Ottawa, we are okay. Also, we are all slowly loosing our awesome suntan. Damn! I saw many hotel guest totally covered with sun-protection swimwear. There is just so much out there. However, we don’t have any of these fancy thingies. I used sun lotion; my son had a bandana on most of the time and we were fine. Just a tiny sunburn for me – I guess I never learn. In this post I would love to share a couple of tips and tricks on how to have a smoother, stress-free plane ride. My family and I basically live on planes and I have some experience by now.

What seemed like a good flight schedule is when I fly from JFK to Frankfurt and take the latest flight possible. I leave the US at around 9pm – be on the plane for 8+hours and (with the 6 + hours time change) arrive between 10 am and 11am in Germany. So you take off in your country, try to sleep on the plane and rise and shine at your destination. Sounds awesome, right? Well, this works well in theory or if you are traveling without children and be able to sleep on the plane. The last flight to Frankfurt was a disaster and my son was crying a lot. Now with my new little Gravol-trick, it should be a bit better. Here, my son slept for about 1 1/2 hours straight on my sweater as a pillow. Sweet!

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However, keep in mind that your child will not sleep the entire 8 hours. There is just so much going on. Dinner and drinks will be served, the light is still on and so and so. So from my experience, this is actually the hardest flight to take – definitely physically. Plus, if you stayed up the entire flight you will be jet-legged for sure and exhausted! If you fly with kids, definitely try to book an early flight, if possible and arrive in the afternoon or early evening.

Here a some other tips I would like to share:

  1. Make sure to pack some cream or moisturizer in your carry-on. Also take a lip balm. My face tends to get very dry on the plane. Before you get off the plane, make sure to wash your face and apply a cream again. You will feel instantly refreshed. It is important to keep your skin hydrated.
  2. Traveling alone or with my son, I always have snacks on me. Usually healthier ones like apples, almonds or pretzels.
  3. Make sure to take a large scarf, hooded sweater and wear comfortable clothing – speaking nothing too tight, headphones (headphones for your kids!), painkillers (ear pressure, headaches etc.) and ear plugs. Don’t forget your phone charger and make sure you have downloaded enough Peppa Pig Episodes for your kids. Or whatever they are into. It just so happened that there were no touchscreen monitors on our last plane. The key here is, make is as comfortable as possible for yourself and your children. Wear comfortable shoes or bring warm socks and take off your shoes. On my last flight I saw a woman wearing high-heels before, during and after the flight! How uncomfortable can something possibly be? Are you allowed on the emergency slide with high heels? 🙂
  4. Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated. I try to stay away from caffeinated drinks and alcohol on the plane. However, I have the occasional glass of wine with my meal but afterwards I can just wait for my skin to start itching because it dries out. Also make sure you have enough to drink for your children.
  5. It is important to move around a bit. Walk up and down the aisles, go to the toilet so your blood can circulate. If you travel with children you will most certainly move anyway. If you are on a long flight you don’t want to end up with deep vein thrombosis while you sit the entire time in this seat with usually no leg-room. Stretch your legs, move your toes and do stand up every hour or so. I also massage my neck a lot.

I hope these tips help you and make your flight smoother. I have written a post on how to survive a plane ride with kids. Read it here if you would like. And you better listen to “German” stewardesses throughout the safety instructions! 😀

Thank you for reading my blog and have a safe flight!

How do you de-stress?


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Hello!

These days I have to admit that my stress level is pretty low. I mean, if your only concern is when to write on the blog, to what restaurant to go to for breakfast, lunch and dinner, or when to go to the beach or what cocktail to order, life is pretty sweet, no? But there were and will be other times with a lot of stress and running around and such. Think about the approaching holiday season. You guys, it is X-mas in ONE month! Can you believe it? Another years is almost over. Wow! I am still speechless, thinking about how fast time flies. So let’s go back to stress. Are you already stressed out being reminded of Christmas and the gifts you have to purchase for everybody? I found the perfect solution for you. NO gifts! In my family we don’t buy gifts for each other for the holidays. My son gets one or two toys, nicely wrapped under the tree and that is it. My parents don’t believe in all the gift-buying insanity either. Christmas is just to go all crazy buying things in stores for everybody in the family and then to return most of it the next day.

All I really want is time. Give me your time. More time – anything like that. I don’t want any materialistic stuff only because it is Christmas and you think you NEED to buy (me) things. I buy whatever I want and or need throughout the year. Of course it is nice for kids to have a tree and unwrap things and have cookies and all that. And we really just do it for my son or the kids in our families. But I am defiantly not stressing myself out running around for days or weeks to find gifts for everyone else. Especially useless stuff – like dust catcher or another scarf! We have stopped  doing that in a long time and it is so much easier. We simply agreed on just preparing something for the kids. Easy, no? All you really have to do now is focus on your family. Focus on the people who are there to celebrate with you. Not on stuff. We have enough STUFF already. And isn’t all this so counterintuitive? The holidays shouldn’t be about stress you guys! Rather a peaceful, relaxing time with friends and family.

Besides that, how do you stay stress-free or de-stress? Here are some tips on how I stay out of the stress-zone:

  1. Meditation and Yoga: Since we have been at the Hyatt Ziva in Cancun I have taken Yoga classes daily and I must say that this helps me to focus and be content. I practiced Power Yoga for a long time now and I love it. It is just an awesome balance and with a bit of mediation I am fine. Meditation is good for me. I never thought I could sit still for more than 5 minutes but it is all in your brain. You can do anything you really want to. Give your brain a rest and zone out for a while. Just sit quietly somewhere for a couple of minutes with your eyes closed and focus on your breathing. Everybody could to this for five minutes – puh-lease! 😀
  2. Go outside: Nature is your best friend. My son and I are outside a lot. Almost every single day – unless it is pouring rain that does not stop for five minutes. But these days are rare. In Mexico we are out all day long. To spend time in nature as much as possible is key.
  3. Lavender essential oil and breathing: Lavender calms me down, period! I love to drink lavender tea or spritz some of my essential oil mixed with water on my pillow at night and I sleep so well. Correct breathing is so important too. Try this exercise: Inhale for a count of four. Hold breath for a count of seven. Exhale for a count of eight. It does work. I tried it several times before losing my mind with my son 😀
  4. Get a massage or a beauty treatment: Sometimes it feels so good to get a professional massage done, right? Yesterday I was able to get a deep tissue massage at the hotel SPA and it was hands down one of the best massages I have ever had. Get A haircut at my favorite place in Germany/Coburg which is always de-stressing and works for me. Have you ever visited a Naturhaarfriseur? A what? It is a hairdresser who only works with natural ingredients. You won’t get a perm there for example! If you get the chance to have a natural haircut done ask for the head massage with the boar bristle brush! Awesomeness! Try something new once in a while! You will never forget this experience. Nicole Reiter is the best in this field!
  5. Read: I prefer to read at home on the couch with a nice cup of tea. For me, this is de-stressing paradise. Sometimes this is really all I need, too. I believe it is important to give yourself some time to rest. Life is stressful enough. Take a deep breath, do some yoga, stretching or mediation, read a book, play outside and go get a massage. <3 Have a good day!

Thank you for reading my blog. 

Traveling these days with my two-year old

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I haven’t shared an update on my little guy recently so I will do so today and tell you what is going on these days. We are traveling a lot recently. We started our trip by picking my husband up from the airport and left the next day for Canada. My husband continues his training in Ottawa but has the weekend off to study, so we thought he can also work at the beach and hopped on the next plane to Mexico/Cancun. Our son loves to travel. He likes being in the car and plane rides are a piece of cake by now. He has his own seat on the plane since he turned two years old so no more numbness in my legs throughout the entire flight while he jumps up and down on me. This was pretty annoying – plus he weighs 16 kg (35 lbs). I wrote an article on how to fly with a toddler/baby and on how to survive road trips with these little rascals if you would like to read. There are some useful tips and tricks to make it easier for them and of course yourself, based on my experience.

My son has traveled and seen a lot already but he never stayed  at an all-inclusive hotel. The Hyatt Ziva in Cancun is a great hotel and kids-friendly. I am working on a huge review of and for the hotel so stay tuned for that.

This time, the flight was easy and just four hours long. My son as entertained by other passengers, the little touch-screen in the seat in from of him, the food tray (he put it up and down about a million times), the blinds to close the windows (you can also put them up and down many times) and the food/drinks cart with all the apple juice. I met a nice woman on the plane who sat behind us. She traveled with her daughter to Mexico and we talked for a while and my son became a bit annoying. She told me about these motion sickness pills (Canadian Brand – Gravol Kids) that she gives her daughter sometimes and besides making you not through up, calm the kids down a bit. 😀 We tried it and it worked so well. You can just get these pills over the counter so there is nothing too bad in them.  My son calmed down and actually fell asleep for a about 45 minutes. I won’t give it to him anymore unless it is really necessary. An eight-hour flight to Germany. Or Congo – just to make it easier for him.

It is just awesome to be fortunate and able to spend time with my family at a beach in Mexico. I really do think I am pretty lucky, you guys. Especially to stay at this beautiful hotel and all these places we explore. This is how we deal with the sleeping situation in a hotel room:

Our son shares the room with us and it is not a problem at all – even though I thought it would be in the beginning. At home, he usually sleeps in his own room. Actually, since he is born! When he was a baby, I figured that I am rather getting up in the middle of the night to breastfeed him and go to his room than having him in my bed all night long. This was and is the only time I really do have for myself and I don’t want to worry about crushing him. Also, he turns a lot when he sleeps so there is no time for me to rest really. I also read a night in bed with my light on and he prefers total darkness and quiet. Win-win I would say. What do you do with your kids? Where do they sleep? They sleep in your bed? How does all this work out for you and your husband/boyfriend?

So as I am typing this, my husband is on the bed working and studying and my son is in his little crib in the small hallway of our room. Of course I have to keep the lights off initially until he falls asleep but then I turn a small light back on – like my cellphone. I just don’t want him to wake up. This is my me-and sacred time. We put a bathrobe over the crib so it is nice and dark for him and he sleeps until at least 9am. Jackpot!

We met this really nice couple here at the hotel who have a 15 months-old-son. So the kids could play and we talked more or less normally while making sure the babies are not taking the place apart. We talked about how everything changes once you have kids. Two years ago, I have been to this hotel (Previously Dreams Cancun) with my husband on our honeymoon and it was so different. We slept in, went to breakfast/more brunch let’s say, and chilled all day at the pool bars. And of course you don’t go to bed at 9pm.

Now, our son is up between 8am-9am; thankfully not too early these days and he is hungry. And he wants to be entertained,  Yes, you have to spend time at the KIDZ Club. But you know what? It is all okay. It is different but okay! And you meet other parents with kids! So I sit with my friend and her son in the KIDZ Club pool with water so warm that it feels like a bathtub; pretty uncomfortable thinking you are in hot and sunny Cancun. All these kids around me, the noise, the slides, the splashing and a floater (in the pool, just put a swimming diaper on your kid!) and I am dreaming of my cocktail that is waiting at the pool bar because you are not allowed to bring alcohol to the kids area. Who makes these rules? 🙂

But you know what? I love it! I love love love my son! It is so much different from when he was a baby and it gets better and better. Even though he is super fixated on me but I will write about this separately. At the end of the day I find just some sort of deep contentment and I know I made his day good and he is sleeping now safe and sound; to tired from being in the ocean and pool all day long and building sand castles. Oh, I think he just woke up… It might be time for a little lullaby.

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The Book Review “Blogging” by Robin Houghton and tips on how to start your blog

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Today I would like to share three great books that helped me a lot when I started blogging. These books are for everybody who does not have a clue what blogging is all about and is in need of some basic information. Along with great websites and ideas, links and helpful tips, these books will be a good investment. There is just so much to know and learn before you start your blog. Writing good posts is one thing; but the goal is, you also want to attract readers to your blog so you have to work on the website itself to make it look presentable. You can do so with widgets, plug-ins and such great tools that you will find out about in these books.

Are you thinking about starting your own blog? Here is what I learned so far.

First, ask yourself what you would like to share or really care about. The key is to write on a regular basis – let’s say Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Or everyday, like I do. I just love writing and researching so much! Many start a blog and then don’t post anything anymore. Of course nobody wants to follow your blog if you don’t keep it fresh with new information. If you have followed my blog for a while you know that I love to write about my personal experiences, how-to-do stuff, my take-on things, recipes and a lot more. Just think what blog you would love to follow or read on a daily basis. Me, I wouldn’t want to read only about food, fashion or books.  I want a variety of things. I love to help people or make things easier and better. This is why I love to share articles on my beauty products. Keep  in mind that you want a clear line of some sort throughout your blog. Stick to the categories you want to write about.

I think it is also important to mention the latest trends and news on the topics you like to share. New recipes, new creations, new books etc. This is how you can increase the readership. I try to add jokes and funny stories now and then and of course I want to inspire others to follow their dream and do what they love. Don’t just dream about starting a blog or writing a book. Do it. Life is too short! You can write about a difficult time in your life, illness, experience – there is simply so much. At the same time, be careful not to share too much about your family, work etc. Simply know the limits to not make anybody uncomfortable. Read and subscribe to other blogs to see what they are writing about. See, what is interesting, what is out there and get ideas. Of course, don’t copy and paste but try to find out what people would love to read. And then be better than the rest. 🙂

Are you ready to start your blog? Think about a great name for it first. Decide wisely because once you started your blog you don’t want to change everything again. What would fit well with the topics you would like to share and write about? Now think about if you want to create your own website or if you want to host your blog. WordPress and Blogger are the most popular website creation sites. I like WordPress (WP Engine) because you have a 24/7 help service included if you host with them. Pretty neat if you are not a computer nerd. I registered at WordPress.org, which is self-hosted. WordPress.com is free. The free version restricts you from having an income. I have heard from my friends on Blogger, that the website is very easy to set up and to maintain. You can purchase your domain for $12 or so and you get a domain name like yourname.blogspot.com. There is also Tumblr.com and Webs.com as website builders but I don’t know anything about them really. I looked for the two main ones and WordPress sounded more appealing to me because it is just so reliable. After my website was set up I created the “About” page to introduce myself. Just include some personal information why you want to write a blog or what you want to share. If you have any questions, send me an email under Contact! I will be happy and glad to help you and share with you what I have already learned in the blogging business.

I have followed “The Minimalists” for a long time now and love to read their blog. This great video gives you insight on how to start your WordPress blog. Enjoy! And happy blogging!

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How to: Sleep better and feel rested

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Recently I have slept very well. Have you ever realized how awesome your day is when you have a good night’s rest? Everything seems okay. Sleeping is very important! My son usually sleeps 12-13 hours straight at night! Amazing no? Of course he is ready to go in the morning and everything is a-okay. Many times I thought I should take him as an example and do the same. Maybe not go to bed at 8pm and sleep until 8am but even this is sometimes a good idea. We all do remember the college all-nighters right? You didn’t study for your exam and then on the last day and night try to cram everything in your head. Then you take the exam in the morning. Fail! 🙂 But why? Well, I don’t want to give any study tips today but you know that this usually never works.

I did work night shifts a lot in my previous job and my body and system were pretty confused at points. Is it day? Is it night? I don’t think that it is too healthy to work at night. This is the normal time for you body to rest. No matter what anybody says. Today I would like to share some tips on how I  sleep better and get more rest at night. If you have a routine at night, your body transitions easier into night-mode. Again, my son is the best example here. He knows his program at night and he gets tired. Washing, brushing his teeth, pajamas, story and bed. I think to stick to a routine is key here. To get your body in some type of rhythm makes it easier to rest and make you relax.

My husbands bedtime routine: Lay down, close your eyes, focus on a black dot and nighty night. He seriously falls asleep in two minutes. Amazing. My bedtime routine: Thinking, thinking and trying to figure things out. Then get up, write a bit about a new idea, then go back to bed and try to sleep again. Try to focus on this damn black dot…. black dot, what kind of black dot? Is it big or small? Do I stare at it with my eyes closed? You get the point here. I just have so much on my mind and it runs free. I love to solve things at night. Problems that are not really problems maybe?

Here are some tips that work for me these days. Again, I am not an expert by any means and if you are suffering from insomnia or any other sleep related illness you are better off consulting a medical professional.

Set up a schedule on what you need to get done. There should be some type of deadline. You stop working after 9pm for example, if possible. Just turn your phone, computer, and every other gadget you may have off. I understand that it might not be always possible, but this might help. Right now I am not working but still, at some point I have to stop writing or reading and just call it a night. If you have a time when you turn your gadgets off, the body will react to it and start to relax and calm down. You know this constant vibrating and buzzing of the phone just bothers at some point.

I tell myself now that things can wait until tomorrow. This calms my brain down and the thinking at night has gotten a lot better. Tomorrow is another day and the problems will be taken care off then. Simple as that. It usually works pretty well. Another things I found to help me relax at night is definitely reading. A cup of decaffeinated tea – I love peppermint tea at night or a hot shower. I used to take a Yoga course late in the evening  at Mang’Oh Yoga in New York. It was very well done. With candles and calming music – just awesome. If you get a chance, definitely check it out. I am going to bed now. Rise and shine tomorrow when I take a 9:00am Yoga class. 😀

Thank you for reading my blog. And have a good night! 

Five Things

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And Happy Friday! The weekend is around the corner. Some great updates from me and my family will follow soon. I just want to say that I have the best time with ever and enjoy every single day. This is the most important thing for me these days. To know that my husband is with us and we are healthy and able to be together. I always write about him and it seems we have no arguments ever. Of course we do. Maybe it is because we don’t see each other that much due to his mission assignment in Africa but I must say that we really don’t argue that much. It is just easy smooth sailing and I love it. The only one who freaks out once in a while in a perfect situation is me. No clue why. Maybe because there is ONE thing I want and I can have it and I forget how awesome everything else is? Then I turn into a bitch. Thankfully, this really only happens once in a while. Like once a month hahahah…. poor husband because it is seriously never his fault!  My Five Things – read on if you would like:

Thinking about: My family and balance. Today, my husband took our son to the beach and spent at least two hours with him building sandcastles while I worked on my blog. This was awesome. I loved it and enjoyed every minute. I sat in a café, the friendly waitress was asked for automatic coffee refill send to my table and I typed along. I thought how fun it is to really do my thing and write but I know how much I love to spend time with my son and husband. The key is to find a balance and make it all work. I love to spend time with them and have the freedom to work on my blog and create new things and write. It was awesome after two hours of writing to see both of them again. I was so happy and it felt good. I know that I will always write but I know now that I will do it in a way where I feel good and it is all balanced.

I am also thinking about this and that it is so true. I clearly see my husband here 100%: 

and that, not so much my husband but I see it everywhere:

Just a little reminder! 🙂

Eating: Do you know what Ceviche is? Here is the link. I love this food. Let’s say I have eaten a lot of it lately and will share some more insight soon. I don’t like meat too much but I do love seafood (which is meat in a way too, but c’mon, you gotta live, right!) I just cannot say no. Especially not when it is raw – or sometimes raw 😉

Reading: I just finished Whoopi Goldberg’s book “If someone says ‘You complete me,’ RUN!” which was a great read. Check out my slightly different Book Review here.  I started  “The Heart goes Last” by Margaret Atwood recently but I have not finished it yet. I review will follow soon.

Watching: The Human Stain. Another one of my favorite movies. Watch it if you get a chance!  Otherwise, check out all these movies  on my list that I would love to see.

Enjoying:  This season. Fall, winter and Christmas. Well, for me, Christmas means to be with my family and nothing else. To be home, to eat good food and have the people you love the most around you and preferably no fights or arguments.

In my family we don’t give gifts to each other. My son gets one gift but that is it. I just don’t believe in all this insanity of buying something for everyone and the stress that is involved. In the end most of what you give will be returned anyway or not worn, or put somewhere to collect dust. I have the same feeling about any “holiday” let’s say. Valentine’s Day? C’mon. Seriously? You have to make a big thing out of this one day to show you love your significant other? I could not care less. Love me the rest of the year and I am fine. All these holiday are the same. You feel obligated to buy something for someone. It stresses people out and I just don’t like all that. I mean, of course, when you have kids, it is nice to have something small for them. Like one gift but to get something for EVERYONE in your family? C’mon…. get real. And then the hassle to return everything. If you want to give something, give money or a voucher so the person can purchase whatever they need and want. And do not stress any further. Simple. Really think about it. From my minimalist perspective, it is all just a waste of time and money. Rather spent time with your family and not going shopping for stuff that nobody needs. Really think about it.

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A different Book Review: “If someone says ‘You complete me’, Run!” by Whoopi Goldberg

“A romantic relationship is fun and can add a lot to your life, but think of it as the whipped cream on top of the sundae and not the whole sundae. And that’s all folks!” 

I listened to Howard Stern on Sirius Radio while driving around in Canada and followed this amazing interview he had with Whoopi Goldberg. I have never read anything by her before and I have to say that this book blew me away. Simply because she is not a psychologist but still has such knowledge about what she is writing about simply because she has been there and done that! Reading relationship/marriage self-help books is usually not very helpful to me. I didn’t need to read any of these books for the last four years  because everything has been smooth sailing. However; before that, I did try to figure our why my relationships did not work and why everything always has to be complicated and one could find me very often in the self-help aisles at Barnes & Noble.  In any case: Did I find answers reading all these books? Nope, not really. Until it all made sense to me when I met my husband.

I told him the other day that if Whoopi would have written this book many years ago and I would have read it, many painful situations could have been avoided. But he said, “nope, you wouldn’t have been ready and most likely would have done the same things”! He is right. Do we listen to advice our friends and family give us? Sometimes maybe – but usually not. Especially when it comes to relationships. “What do they know? I can change him! I can make it all work! I love him no matter what – even though he is married with kids! He will leave his wife at some point! Or yes, he will change his mind for sure and move in with me, and then he will want to have kids as well!” Isn’t this what we usually say and then for whatever reason the relationship goes down the drain. And then you hear, “we told you so”.

Whoopi’s book on relationships addresses exactly those type of questions and problems. This book is a very honest approach on relationships and marriages and about the mistakes she made and wants you to avoid. I even started to watch “The View” – Whoopi’s show on ABC. She is amazing! She mentioned how all the gay couples were so happy when they were finally able to get married in New Jersey, New York and many other states.

“You can get married now. When are you going to get married?” But the questions is: Why do you want to do that? Yes, you get some security from your other half, you share the finances, if something happens to you and you get sick or can’t work, you can fall back on what your spouse has, and blah blah blah.” 

You learn, that it is not important what everybody else tells you regarding marriage and relationships. You have to listen to YOURSELF, what makes YOU happy. And if you are happy with a man/woman who cheats on you constantly, great. Good for you. If you are happy to be the lover of a married husband with kids, also good for you. Whatever you are comfortable with. I always had this thought that I need to be with someone. Not necessarily to get married but to have a man on my side. Now I know that I am fine being just by myself. Nobody can complete me – I complete myself. “Who are you? What makes you happy?” These are the questions you should ask yourself, according to Whoopi.

If you are looking for a self-help book that is very personal and not the typical type of shrink advice, read this book. I knew that Whoopi Goldberg is an actress but not that she has written a couple of books. This one I just ordered and I cannot wait to start it. This title speaks straight from my heart. Her tone is sometimes hilariously funny but also very frank at point. I think she is an amazing narrator and honesty is key! She openly writes about her farting habits – and why you should not stop farting once you are in a relationship or marriage. Just be yourself. This does not mean that I have to sit farting and burping in front of my husband. Of course not, c’mon.

Many years I thought it is the goal in every woman’s life to get married eventually. Not necessarily have kids, a house, a garden, a dog and a cat. The typical cliché. But you know, be with someone you really love and not be alone. Honestly, I was never really alone between relationships. I never had time to think and just be by myself.  No clue why! Now, with my husband it is different. I have alone-time and I love it. Maybe not as much as we do indeed have with him being on mission, but I think it is important and healthy to have quality time with yourself. Alone! So far, my marriage is perfect for me – perfect for us. I miss him when he is not around; and not seeing each other sometimes for weeks makes us love and miss each other more. I cannot explain this feeling but I look forward to seeing him again. Almost like going out on a date for the first time. You make sure you look good, put on a little perfume, a bit of  make-up, cook something special or go out for dinner. I am not saying to send your husband or wife on a mission to love and miss them. But this works well for us – for now!

Whoopi wrote about how movies and music make you dream and believe in some type of fairytale – but no relationship is like this. Maybe in the beginning. You remember the first couple of weeks you were in love? Constantly thinking about the other person? Love letters, flowers, hidden love notes? And then this becomes less and less? Same with the sex you might think. Well, things change. There is no routine or consistency in a relationship. Things happen! Schedules change. Stop searching for a prince/or princess out there. They don’t exist! They just don’t! As I said, it is important that you know yourself first and know what you want. Or at least know, what you don’t want. This is all a learning experience and I am by no means an expert. Far from it. But with my previous experience, I know now what I don’t want anymore and that I love what I have and live life to the fullest with my husband by my side. (+my son!) 😀

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My take on: “Our Town” by Thornton Wilder

“Let’s really look at one another!…It goes so fast. We don’t have time to look at one another. I didn’t realize. So all that was going on and we never noticed… Wait! One more look. Good-bye , Good-bye world. Good-bye, Grover’s Corners….Mama and Papa. Good-bye to clocks ticking….and Mama’s sunflowers. And food and coffee. And new ironed dresses and hot baths….and sleeping and waking up. Oh, earth,you are too wonderful for anybody to realize you. Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it–every,every minute? (Emily)”  – Thornton Wilder, Our Town

Hello!

I have written that I am in love with plays, broadway shows, musicals you name it because I love to watch humans act on stage. It is just so much more special for me than watching a movie. A couple of years ago I was fortunate to see “Our Town” by Thornton Wilder in this little tiny off-off broadway theater and it was hands down one of the best plays I have ever seen. Hello Waterworks throughout the play and definitely at the end all three times that I have seen it. It had such a deep impact on me that I of course purchased the book and re-read it once in a while just to feel happy. I have to say that I don’t usually re-read books? Do you? I have a couple of books that I love dearly and maybe read twice but that is it. “Our Town” is different. I just take it out of my bookshelf and browse through it occasionally. Today, I will describe what this magical play is all about and of course the creator behind it – Thornton Wilder. Read on.

Thornton Wilder (1897-1975) was an American novelist and playwright. For “Our Town” he received the Pulitzer Prize – well deserved I think! He has won I believe three Pulitzer Prizes total. You can read more about him and his life here. I want to focus this article more on the play itself.

“Our Town” was first published and produced in 1938 and is a drama of life in a tiny village called Grover’s Corner, New Hampshire. My first impression was that everything was kept very simple. There was just no scenery. The book and the play are narrated by the ‘Stage Manager’ and he puts chairs and tables on the stage while you simply see an empty stage in a dim light. Instantly I thought this is awesome. Thornton focuses on so much more but scenery. The stage manager now explains where everything in this town is located. It is up to your imagination to “see” it or understand that a simple bench is the “Webb house”. I observed where the stage manager put all the chairs and benches and recognized this town. I saw how these people lived and I saw the houses. It was just so strange. The play’s focus is on life, love and death and that each life is special because everybody is unique and has their own little story.

I believe what Wilder tried to do was to make people appreciate the simple, small things in life again. Emily Webb and George Gibbs are the two main characters who guide you through the play. You learn about their childhood, marriage, their families and death. You see and understand through the play how fast time passes. You learn that it is very important to see the little and simple details in your life and to live in the moment. This is all that really matters anyway.  Looking closely, these simple details could mean a lot more than you think. You will get to know Thornton’s language in the dialogues  throughout the play which I thought was very beautiful.

Overall I can say that this book is amazing. Maybe try not to focus too much on the future and definitely not on the past. The past is gone and over and you will never get it back. I reflected on my life after reading the book and seeing the play and realized that while you are on this planet you might as well dance and enjoy a happy life! To live is just this wonderful thing!

Try and find out if this play is showing anywhere and go see it. It is so worth it! There is also a 1940s movie version of Our Town  that I watched and found that it was well done.

Thank you for reading my blog.