We Will Get there Someday, Says Pooh.

Hello and Happy Monday! 

Success. We will get there one day, or not at all, right? Sometimes it is important to realize that whenever we take a step back it does not necessarily matter or mean that we fail. It might just be some room you are giving yourself to enjoy life or truly live. Stress is not healthy. Period! It makes us sick. I remember a very stressful time when I worked and studied full-time. Usually, when people asked me how I am, I responded, “busy”, “tired” or “I hope this is over soon”. At points, I love to be busy, really busy. It is fun when I am once in a while stuck in deadlines, book reviews, books that I need to read or posts I have to write. But then, I crave time to do nothing, and I take this time, simply because I don’t want to drown myself in stress – we only have this one life. 

Basically, we have the ability to mold our lives into whatever we like it to be. A friend of mine told me today that she two job offers, one in Berlin and one in the UK. She does not know which way to go and is stressed out. I had to deal with situations like this myself and I learned to simply take a step back first. Look at the whole picture, write a little pro-con-list and then decide for whatever feels better, usually deciding with my heart. They key is to be successful but at the same time, stress-free and respect my own wellbeing. 

What is success for you? How do you define it? I define success so it makes sense to me and I still feel good about the whole thing. Whenever I feel balanced it is okay. I can work hard but as long as I have time for myself or am able to allow some time for myself – fine. Redefining success is key. I set aside time for myself. A massage, dinner or coffee with friends, whatever feels right to me. I love to prioritize and think it is better to step back and look at the whole picture first. Some things can wait until tomorrow while others cannot. 

Another important aspect is to learn to say “no”. I used to say “yes” all the time even though I knew I cannot manage to get something done in time and then felt bad afterwards. Too many predicaments. I usually never even consider any “no-response”. These days I know that learning to say no to certain things is some sort of essential part of the whole process. I am just more thoughtful about my responses and it became more and more natural over time. 

If someone tells you he desires to be busy all the time it usually means either he does not want to do anything with you or it is used as a mean of combating negative fears and thoughts. Affirmation or some type of “I” statements work really well in that case. Any thoughts or problems that used to weigh me down refrained this in a  way to release the grip. Lastly, it is important to just shut it off sometimes. Emails, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest and whatnot. Usually, all this does not have a positive impact on me. I rather buy stuff that I do not need or look at webpages to buy things I do not need. There is usually no reduction of any stress level I dealt with. I rather shut everything off as often as I can and focus on the moment. Right here, right now. It is important for me to be right here and spent my time just being, not doing. 



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