February 14th is around the corner. You know what this means, right? Going all crazy to find something for your sweetheart for Valentine’s Day. Usually my Valentine’s Day plans are somewhat like this: If my husband and I are lucky to be together at this day we usually stay in, bring our son to bed, make some food together, drink wine and either read or watch a movie. One year he also got me chocolates or a cheesecake and roses. Or he sent roses and chocolate which was sweet but honestly, I didn’t even know it was Valentin’s Day until the box of chocolates arrived with the FedEx delivery. My opinion on Valentine’s Day is that it is a day just like every other day even though this day is named after a Christian martyr and dates back to the 5th century. Isn’t it more like a calendar -filler, like Halloween? Like you have the feeling you have to do something because the calendar and society tells you to?
All over the stores you can see hearts almost as soon as Christmas is over. To me this day is just pointless and invented by some chocolate, wine, lingerie, jewelry or flower company to just make profit and make people spend more money on stuff. Usually, single people feel depressed and miserable that day because they get reminded at every single corner that today is the day you are supposed to receive something love-special from your significant other. Isn’t it something like Single’s Awareness Day? This should be a “hol(y)iday in the United States, don’t you think? As you might have figured out by now, I don’t like Valentine’s Day too much. This has nothing to do with me being a depressed housewife desperately waiting for my husband to come home with flowers and chocolates and be severely disappointed if he forgets Valentine’s Day and then I don’t talk to him for a week (or two). I just don’t care about it much. You see, I think that if we need a day to remind us that we have to buy something or do something special for our partners on that particular day, something is wrong. My husband and I try to celebrate Valentine’s Day every day. Sweet idea, no? Of course this does not happen every day but we give it a try and make this marriage work and something special. Just one single gesture, just one tiny kiss, just respect each other and show the other one that we care.
I do have a lot of love inside my little heart that I am happy to share with my family and friends and others. I just think that action speaks louder than any material gifts really. If my husband and I cook together (we make our famous onion soup) it is magical for me. Working together on something and then eating together is so awesome. We also love to go to a fancy restaurant. I mean we live(d) in New York – we have done it all. But I think it is important to keep in mind that we don’t do anything special on Valentines Day that we would not do any other day, you know.
Little actions that speak louder than any gift is my goal in my marriage. The other day, my husband and I unknowingly picked up the same book. He bought it in French and I (several days later) in German and it is the best to read together. I finished mine today and while I type this he is reading and finishing his. I cannot wait to talk about this amazing book to him. This is romance and love to me. To randomly pick up the same book because you are invested in the same topic. The little things.
What is your take on Valentine’s Day? Do you like it? Do you do something special and if yes, what? I would love to hear from you. Share your thoughts the comments.
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