Hello!
Today was a great day. My son slept super long (11.15am!!!) and my husband and I were able to sleep in after we talked all night long. Yep, he is back from Congo and with his internet connection he has there it is almost impossible to have a normal conversation over the phone or even Skype. So when we physically see each other, a lot needs to be discussed. We sat in my parent’s kitchen and it was so awesome. Talking, drinking wine, eating cheese and enjoying each others company. He was so exhausted but tried to keep his eyes open while I told him about all the amazing things that happened with the website and my writing adventures. He went to bed shortly after. I stayed up to do some research on something that is on my mind for some time now. Do you know the movie A Beautiful Mind? It is definitely on my top-10 movies-list! There is one scene that I have thought about. John Nash’s Equilibrium Game Theory. Watch it here:
When you see the group of women, what do you see? Yep, you see one that is outstandingly beautiful and breathtaking. And her friends accompanying her are also pretty but no bombshells, you know? So why do you think this is? Haven’t you observed that in many groups of women, there is one that fits exactly the profile above? I have tried to figure this out but I just don’t get it. Today, I was in Coburg with my husband and while strolling through the streets and stores to get some pictures for the website and projects done I did observe exactly that. One really pretty girl with one or two not so pretty ones. Of course, one cannot stereotype here or apply this rule to every woman/friend/girlfriend. Do women act like this to feel better about themselves? Is is an ego-booster? Does the let’s say, not-so-pretty-friend, think they will find a boyfriend while hanging out with the beautiful friend just because all the guys will stop and talk to her?
I believe is it called Bridesmaid Syndrome if I understood correctly in my Psychology 101 class in college. Meaning that no bride wants her bridesmaids to be more beautiful than her.
Well, is this a don’t see, don’t hear, don’t say-topic? I am really curious what you think about this. Does it mean the beautiful woman feels even more beautiful when she is around a less attractive women? Or does it mean they increase their value by association? Or do the less attractive ones feel prettier because they think that the pretty ones would not hang out with “ugly” girlfriends so they feel they are on the same level? Do you judge you friends by the way they look and secretly compare it to yours? Are the less attractive friends your real friends? Maybe the pretty girl is not so self-confident after all and needs her friend to accentuate their beauty? Many questions arise but this is what I observe on a daily basis and wonder in silence.
For me, the key is to be self-confident and secure in my own skin and then all this should not matter, correct? Also to love myself the way I am is important and to simply stop comparing myself to others. Unfortunately, kids compare themselves already in school. “Your pants are not as nice as the famous brand the girl in class wears”, for example. And we all know this one pretty girl in your class who had all the attention of the boys. From childhood on, this makes us feel like we are worth less, which is sad. I tell myself that I am great the way I am. Everything is the way it is supposed to be. I am unique. Think about it and share your thoughts if you would like. Have a good evening and a good night.
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