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Lately, many couples I personally know are getting divorced. With some, I was really surprised and sad; with others, I congratulated to the decision. I am by no means an expert in relationships, but I have been around, and I know by now what I want and don’t want pretty clearly. These are the strategies that work for me. You know, always spiced up with some humor and sarcasm, but you will get the point, I hope. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Limit overlapping interests<\/strong>

This might sound counterintuitive, but trust me, it is correct. Real conversation from the other night when I foolishly interrupted my boyfriend’s intense, concentrated scrolling with some straight-up bullshit:

him<\/strong>\u00a0\u201chave you seen the reel of the Poland invasion in 19……blabla?”

me<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cWhat? Have\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0seen the invasive plant species that is choking the oak tree next to the compost?\u201d

me<\/strong>\u00a0(awkward silence)

her<\/strong>\u00a0(irritated silence)

both<\/strong>\u00a0(happily return to our separate interests)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Befriend their friends but not\u00a0<\/strong>too<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0too much<\/strong>. Do not rely on your partner for all your social needs.

Separate your bank accounts<\/strong>

Of course we have one that we share, but that\u2019s not the one I buy my stupid bullshit out of. He isn\u2019t even the kind of person who would dig up the receipts like \u201cWhy did you spend one hundred and fifty euros on books”? Or “Why do we have all these different cakes and chocolates?” Or “Is it necessary to buy more plants?” Or “Do we really need another bookshelf?” Or “No, we don’t need another couch and a matching carpet with it!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes<\/strong> go to bed at different times<\/strong> (<\/strong>or sleep in a <\/strong>different room if one snores, <\/strong>for example!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spend quiet, quality time alone.<\/strong> This is totally fine. Set clear boundaries when you need space.
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Have a real conversation about the temperature at which you maintain your home<\/strong>. Closing windows when it is too cold, don’t close them or keep them wide open if it too hot. Don’t suffer through this. Share your true opinions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don’t agree with everything the partner says or does. <\/strong>They are not almighty! Maintain your own self-identity.

Get two smaller pizzas instead of trying to agree on one big one<\/strong>. Maintain your own independence.

I don\u2019t want fresh corn, I don\u2019t want serrano chiles, I don\u2019t want asparagus, I don\u2019t want roasted cherry tomatoes, I don\u2019t want bacon, I don\u2019t want fig jam, I don\u2019t want buffalo sauce, I don\u2019t want hamburger, I definitely don\u2019t want hot dog (??), I don\u2019t want raw onions, I don\u2019t want brussels sprouts, I don\u2019t want alfredo sauce, I don\u2019t want eggplant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read different books and then talk about it <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t listen too closely when the other person is talking; then they\u2019re always a little mysterious to you<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Have a suggestion ready when you broach the difficult question \u201cwhat do you want for dinner?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhere should we eat tonight?\u201d is another fucking landmine, so come prepared<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vacation separately<\/strong> sometimes<\/strong> (you simply don’t have to do eeeeeverything together)
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Only have low-stakes microfights<\/strong> (a mini-fight a day keeps the maxi-fights away)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t move shit that isn\u2019t yours<\/strong>! I am still working on this one! <\/strong>

Speaking of microfights, one of my favorite ones is \u201cYou put away that thing I left in a common area that annoyed you, and now that I can\u2019t find it I have no other choice than to purchase another one.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gossip a lot<\/strong> (because it is fun)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get some pets so you can always say \u201chey look at the dog\u201d if you need something to say <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One jokester is enough! There is<\/strong>\u00a0only one clown allowed in this circus; someone has to be the ringmaster!<\/strong> (everyone hates the \u201cfunny\u201d couple)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS<\/strong> (don’t be in the other person’s business at all times!) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Concede first and quickly if it\u2019ll shut down a conversation you don\u2019t want to have<\/strong>

You know when you have a talk that\u2019s not necessarily a fight, but is definitely\u00a0not<\/em>\u00a0a casual chat? Like, it\u2019s serious but not deadly serious? I never want to have those; there\u2019s always something stupider and more fun I could be doing. So as soon as I feel a \u201chey, can i talk to you for a sec?\u201d brewing I am heading it off at the pass like, \u201cyou\u2019re right, i\u2019ll do that, thank you\u201d or \u201cyou\u2019re right, I didn\u2019t do that, I apologize\u201d or \u201cyou\u2019re right, whatever you want to do about that is fine, you know best\u201d and then the shit is over and I can go back to doing whatever I\u00a0want<\/em>\u00a0to be doing, which is never ever talking about whatever this bullshit is!!!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anything you would add? What tips do you have to stay in a relationship? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Lately, many couples I personally know are getting divorced. With some, I was really surprised and sad; with others, I congratulated to the decision. I am by no means an expert in relationships, but I have been around, and I know by now what I want and don’t want pretty clearly. These are the strategies … <\/p>\n

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