{"id":2872,"date":"2016-12-26T21:16:14","date_gmt":"2016-12-26T21:16:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sometimesraw.com--precise\/?p=2872"},"modified":"2016-12-27T13:30:04","modified_gmt":"2016-12-27T13:30:04","slug":"a-guide-on-how-to-stay-unhappy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sometimesraw.com\/?p=2872","title":{"rendered":"A Guide on How to Stay Unhappy."},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cAny old fool can find something to moan about, but it takes skill and effort to see the good in life. Being happy requires strength and intelligence.\u201d – Gala Darling<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

What does our true deep self long for? Is it our awareness and somehow the acknowledgment for existence or our attention? Personally, I believe, self-love sounds good, doesn’t it? But what does it all mean? Don’t we all strive to be happy and be the best version of our self? And how can we achieve this?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Many people think that they need to buy certain things or even look a certain way to be happy. I reckon, whenever it comes to true self-love we have to dig a little deeper. The more time I spend by myself and pay attention the clearer the picture gets.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I have spoken to a bunch of friends in the last couple of days and I realized that some of them are very unhappy with their life, circumstances and choices they made. I read excerpts of this little book<\/a><\/strong> that my mom gave me the other day and combined this knowledge with some notes I jotted down after conversations with people. Here is the translated list from the book to be truly unhappy:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Always expect that others make you happy<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Always blame others for your misfortune<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Always say, “coulda, would, shoulda”, whenever the topic is time, money or friends<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. Always compare what you have with what others have<\/span><\/li>\n
  5. Always be serious<\/span><\/li>\n
  6. Try to please everyone always<\/span><\/li>\n
  7. Don’t ever say, “No”!\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  8. Always help others, but never let them help you<\/span><\/li>\n
  9. Always consider your own needs as unimportant<\/span><\/li>\n
  10. Whenever someone makes you a compliment, always play it down<\/span><\/li>\n
  11. Whenever someone criticizes you, blow it up to a ridiculous fight and argue<\/span><\/li>\n
  12. Always make sure you keep all your feelings and worries to yourself<\/span><\/li>\n
  13. Don’t ever change the way you are or your life<\/span><\/li>\n
  14. Don’t ever be satisfied with anything other than perfection\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  15. Always spend all your time either in the past or in the future<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    It is always easier to be unhappy because misery is simple. I sometimes \u00a0allow my ego to focus on the negative and from there it goes all down. Meltdown. Even if someone says something and doesn’t even mean it in a negative way, I assume he\/she attacks me in some way or another. The only thing that matters is my perspective on those things when I then decide if something is good or bad. Negativity or Optimism is a clear choice. So I just stop making excuses and start seeing things differently, even though when times are rough.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Here is a also list of some amazing quotes I enjoy. Maybe you do, too.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cDo stuff. Be clenched, curious. Not waiting for inspiration\u2019s shove or society\u2019s kiss on your forehead. Pay attention. It\u2019s all about paying attention. Attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. Stay eager.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Susan Sontag<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cI began to understand that all of life is practice: writing, driving, hiking, brushing teeth, packing lunch boxes, making beds, cooking dinner, making love, walking dogs, even sleeping. We are always practicing. Only practicing.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Dani Shapiro<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cIf you are gracious, you have won the game.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Stevie Nicks<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cIt\u2019s interesting how we often can\u2019t see the ways in which we are being strong \u2014 like, you can\u2019t be aware of what you\u2019re doing that\u2019s tough and brave at the time that you\u2019re doing it because if you knew that it was brave, then you\u2019d be scared.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Lena Dunham<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cTo me it is really important to live in what I call the spaces in-between. Bus stations, trains, taxis or waiting rooms in airports are the best places because you are open to destiny, you are open to everything and anything can happen.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Marina Abramovi\u0107<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cI cured myself of shyness when it finally occurred to me that people didn\u2019t think about me half as much as I gave them credit for. The truth was, nobody gave a damn. Like most teenagers, I was far too self-centered. When I stopped being prisoner to what I worried was others\u2019 opinions of me, I became more confident and free.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Lucille Ball<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cThe most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Diane von Furstenberg<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cThere is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don\u2019t expect you to save the world I do think it\u2019s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Nikki Giovanni<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cThink of yourself like a captain, and you\u2019ve got this little boat. And sometimes the weather\u2019s good, and you\u2019re just sailing, and sometimes big storms hit, and you know, you\u2019re in a stormy sea, but just ride it out, ride it out. Because it\u2019s good to be alive.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Patti Smith<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cOnce we give up searching for approval, we often find it easier to earn respect.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Gloria Steinem<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cPeople think you have to know what you want to do with your life by the time you\u2019re 19. Wrong! Or that you have to be in a significant relationship in your twenties. Wrong! It\u2019s all just nonsense.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Tilda Swinton<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cYou must not quote to me what I once said. I am wiser now.\u201d<\/span>
    \n\u2014Romy Schneider<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    \u201cAny old fool can find something to moan about, but it takes skill and effort to see the good in life. Being happy requires strength and intelligence.\u201d – Gala Darling What does our true deep self long for? Is it our awareness and somehow the acknowledgment for existence or our attention? Personally, I believe, self-love … <\/p>\n

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